The other day, a client I had not met before and wouldn’t have noticed in my life outside of this came to see me and we had absolutely brilliant sex. After round two we collapsed in a sweaty heap and our post coital conversation got onto the question of what makes good sex?

Neither one of us could pin point an exact theory but we did agree on many points. The first one being mutual pleasure!

There’s that taboo word of “mutual” why so when a man hands over a handful of notes? Surely he is there to be pampered and not worry about the woman’s pleasure right? Er no, wrong!

Most the guys I see professionally as an Orange County and Anaheim escort get huge satisfaction from pleasuring me too and tell me they find this as much of a turn on as me pleasuring them. When I first heard this, I was happily surprised as I wasn’t sure if I had any right to expect this as I was the one being paid. But it turns out to be true, what you put in is what you get out of a situation and both parties doing so is always much more enjoyable.

Recently I made a joke about a client who was lying on my bed with his underwear still on and I said “come on, off with your boxers I would love to see your best asset” I thought I was being fun and it may have got a chuckle but no, the reply was “what you mean other than my wallet?”

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I was stunned! I was actually desperate to get playing and here was a man who lay back, arms behind his head and assumed I would “service” him because he had paid. Needless to say it didn’t break the ice but certainly broke my sex drive in an instant.

Anyway, back to what makes good sex, not expectant sex.

Before any sexual encounter, it helps to talk and relax over a drink and a bit of conversation. When a guy seems genuinely interested in you as a person, that goes a long way. Most escorts really do enjoy people and the getting to know one another builds anticipation for later.

I have heard many times that the biggest sexual organ is the brain and I tend to agree. Without any connection mentally, how on earth are we going to achieve it physically?

We are all different and like different bodies, breast size, cock size, hair color etc, etc but just because an Adonis walks into your place, doesn’t mean a thing unless that other something is there.

Equally true is a beautiful model type with perfect everything (oh I wish, I wish!) doesn’t necessarily mean the sex is going to be amazing. Of course it can be, but it’s not the visuals alone that make an encounter special. The many escorts I work with come in all shapes, colors and sizes. It isn’t their looks that make them special (though I must say they are all stunning!), but rather each knows how to please a man.

Some attributes to good sex are simply out of our hands. There have been a few occasions where regardless of how much I have fancied the person, we just don’t fit physically, something just feels awkward. Luckily not so often but when that happens it’s awful. Good sex isn’t always easy to find, as this Redbook Magazine article makes clear.

For me, good sex is a combination of manners, good hygiene and respect for starters and then it’s down to carnal instinct. It can be something as simple as the way you get touched or the smell of his hair or nape of his neck that makes you want more. A sense of humor is very sexy too.